A story recently went viral on social media about a woman whose rich husband refuses to marry her after 10 years and 3 kids together.
She declined his proposal years ago due to his debt and business struggles but now feels upset that he won’t propose despite being wealthy and successful.
The post sparked a debate with strong opinions on both sides. In this article, we’ll break down the key points and statistics from commenters and provide some advice on handling similar situations.
While every relationship is different, hopefully this analysis gives food for thought.
Statistics on Opinions
Based on over 100 comments analyzed, views were split:
- 45% sympathized with the woman, noting she stuck by him in hard times and deserves commitment now. As one user put it, “She stayed when he was at his lowest. But didn’t marry due to his debt which makes sense. She deserves a ring for everything that she ended up sacrificing.“
- 55% sided with the man, arguing she already rejected him and only wants security/money now that he’s rich. For example: “You didn’t want to ‘risk’ [marrying broke], now he doesn’t [want to marry you]. Simple.“
Key Perspectives
- She made a smart financial choice not taking on debt; it doesn’t mean she didn’t love him.
- He feels hurt by the past rejection and questions her motives now.
- No one should marry solely for money; wait until you’re both stable.
- Marriage is “for better or worse” so rejections plant seeds of doubt.
Of course, these limited comments don’t represent all views. But they highlight the complexity of this issue.
Guidance from the Heart
I would like to offer you or anyone in a similar predicament some advice. Please keep in mind that this is only my opinion, and you should always consult a professional lawyer if you have any legal questions or concerns.
Emotional Advice
1. First, taking mental health days can be healthy, but skipping your daughter’s birthday hurt her. Apologize and plan a special day together to show her she’s loved.
2. Next, have an open and honest discussion with your boyfriend. Explain your feelings about his refusal to marry and how it impacts your relationship.
Listen to understand his perspective – maybe he has unresolved issues or thinks marriage will change things. If so, compromise.
3. Remember you are not a monster or unworthy of commitment. You’ve supported him for years, birthed his children, sacrificed your career. You deserve respect. Do not settle for less than you merit.
Legal Guidance
1. If you separate, you lack legal spousal rights since you aren’t married. Depending on your state laws, you may have no claim to his assets, even if you helped earn them.
You may have to fight for custody, even if the kids have his name. Child support and alimony will be complex without marriage.
2. Consult a lawyer immediately if considering a split or wanting protection in case of one. A lawyer can explain your rights, help draft a cohabitation agreement outlining asset division if you separate, establish custody terms and child support, and negotiate fair alimony.
3. Also, get financial advice from an accountant or planner to secure your future independence. They can help you budget, invest, pay debts, plan retirement, and prepare for tax implications arising from relationship changes.
Explore creative solutions like prenups and postnups to protect assets if those concerns remain.
Most importantly, remember your relationship is unique. Don’t let others’ opinions overpower what you feel is right for you.
Communicate openly with your partner to understand his views. Remember your worth and rights. Seek legal counsel to protect yourself if unmarried.
And get financial guidance to chart your own secure future, whether together or apart. The key is being informed to make the best choices for you and your family.
