Rating your partner’s physical attractiveness is a sensitive topic that can easily cause hurt feelings if not handled carefully.
This was demonstrated in a recent Reddit post where a woman shared that her boyfriend rated her a 7/10. This occurred right after he boasted about sleeping with a “perfect 10” in the past.
Understandably, the woman was left feeling hurt and insecure. Her post received over 1.3k comments, offering different perspectives.
If you want to know how most reacted to this relationship dilemma and what advice they gave, keep reading this summary.
Opinions from the Comments
The most common opinion expressed in the comments was criticism of the boyfriend for bluntly rating his girlfriend in this way.
Many commenters (around 70% based on upvotes) explicitly stated that they felt the boyfriend was in the wrong. Popular reasons given were that it seemed insensitive, vain, and manipulative.
For example, the top comment with over 2.6k upvotes called out the boyfriend for rating himself higher than the OP at an 8 out of 10. Many agreed this showed his “vanity” and lack of care for her feelings.
Of the minority of comments defending the boyfriend, some said the OP shouldn’t have asked him to rate her in the first place.
A few cautioned against having detailed conversations about past sexual encounters, which often breed insecurity. However, the OP clarified in an edit that she did not actually ask to be rated or discuss her own past during the original conversation.
Overall, most comments supported the OP and recommended she seriously re-evaluate or end this relationship. They felt the boyfriend’s behavior revealed his true insensitive and narcissistic character.
My Thoughts and Advice
I cannot make a definitive judgement without hearing both sides. However, I can provide some advice for couples dealing with similar tensions.
- Avoid rating each other’s attractiveness with numbers, which oversimplifies the complex nature of attraction. Focus on meaningful compliments instead.
- Be very cautious when discussing sexual histories, which often leads to retroactive jealousy. If you must, keep it brief and do not criticize partners.
- Insensitive comments can erode trust in relationships. Have an honest discussion about how the comment made you feel. If insensitivity persists, consider it a red flag to re-evaluate the relationship.
- Choose a partner who makes you feel cherished in both actions and words. You deserve to feel secure and valued in a relationship. Reflect on whether this boyfriend’s behavior aligns with your needs. If not, you may find greater happiness moving on.
Remember that beauty is in the eye of the beholder. The right partner will make you feel like a perfect 10, regardless of any numerical scale. Prizing each other’s inherent worth fosters the strongest relationships.
