Teach Your Life to be Extraordinary

How to live a life you love and feel deeply connected to yourself without sacrificing your marriage or your family in the process.

Dear Extraordinary Mother,

I want to talk to you about something that most of us don’t really talk about … at least not in earnest with each other.

There is a quiet, pervasive sadness I hear from women when they are brave enough to share their innermost experiences of the day to day life of a mother.

It sounds like this:

“Everything drains me, from the moment I wake up to the moment I go to sleep … there is just no joy left.”

“Right now, I’m just numb. The idea of passion seems so unreal and flat.  It’s not really even a true desire anymore, I don’t think.  I could simply use a good night’s sleep.”

“Somewhere along this motherhood journey, I lost the “me” inside.  And even though I know she is a different person than she was before – I have no idea how to get to know her now.”

“I don’t have a spare moment in my day.  I’m constantly pulled in one direction and another – from my kids’ needs to my husband’s needs to my household needs, to work’s needs.  There is nothing left.”

“I don’t give my best to anything – that makes me the saddest of all.”

“I give “it” all away – there is nothing left for me.”

“I’m just coasting through my days - no direction, no ambition, no drive anymore.”

“I’m just spinning my wheels most days, just putting out the fires as they erupt.”

The longing and the doubt

And then just when a little flicker of hope surfaces, when a remembering of what it felt to be really alive and excited about life comes back - the questions and doubts come in like waves …

“If I move toward my own desires will I end up neglecting my family’s needs and drown in even more guilt?”

“Is it really even possible … sounds like I’m setting myself up for major failure again - chasing after another shiny object.  Maybe I should just learn not to be so discontent with my life as it is.”

“I don’t believe it. I don’t believe you can “have it all” - every other mother I see lives the way I do and they seem ok with it, why should I ask for more?”

“What passion?  What fire? What self?  Honestly, it feels scarier to me to try and find there is nothing left. I have no idea how to even begin figuring this out.”

“Exactly how do I get the energy to pursue this as a goal right now?  I’m in complete survival mode.  I have all I can handle and more on my plate already.”

The thing is, when I hear these “secret” conversations from other mothers, it triggers my own memories of when I felt exactly like that - when I felt all my life energy was drained from the core.  When the idea of passion and purpose felt laughable and triggered more cynicism in me than anything else.

Here’s the thing … my life is different now - way different.  I made some honest assessments.  I fought for myself and for the vision I had for my life - including the vision I had for my marriage and for my family.

I refused to define how things could be by what I saw everyone else doing.  And I also refused to let society, media and outside voices define what I really wanted out of life.  

I went on a radical, grace-filled, sloppy self journey.

At first it felt crazy scary.  I had plenty of times when I backed down, got lost, skinned my knees and swore I was giving up and giving in.

But soon I worked out a different way of carving out my path.  An inside-out, joy-directed, priority-led, passion-lit, purpose-driven way that so completely turned everything on its head I’ll never go back again. 

Now the path is a blast.  Now the path works because it reflects who I am and who I am becoming.  It is flexible, grace-filled and gives me deep inner peace because I know that even with all the twists and turns, the mistakes and set backs – this is truly MY life I’m crafting.  And I’m having an amazing time along the way.

I want that for you, too.

One of my secret wishes is that we, as inspired mothers, start a riot around the world redefining life and mothering on our own terms. 

I want us to be agents of major prosperity, laughter, kindness and creativity - not only for ourselves, but paving a new path for our sons and daughters to follow in as well.

It’s the journey of a Life On Purpose and it is a radiant thing to behold.

It’s also pretty simple once you get the basic pieces in place.

In fact, it’s simplicity is where the magic waits.  I’m coming to trust that once something is too complicated, it’s a sure sign you’ve gotten off track.

Simple, smooth, flow.  Inside out design.  More peace, more love, more kindness. These are the new roadsigns ahead.

No one in the history of humans has every mothered in a world like we live in today.

Now mothers want self expression, they want to contribute their unique gifts AND they aren’t willing to sacrifice that which they hold most dear - particularly in the realm of family and mothering.

I’m one of those mothers and I suspect you are, too.

In the process of learning a new way of being in the world, I’ve come to see this magnificent journey as having crucial parts that must be put in the right place.  And when they are – things get really fun and exciting and magical.

5 Big Concepts along the way:

1.  Purpose

• Your job is to know your purpose and to make sure your life aligns within it.  So, what’s your purpose?  I got really sidetracked and tied up in knots over this one for a long time.  Get it clear and it has a way to instantly calm you and keep you in that centered, grounded, thriving spot.

2. Passion

• What is saddest to me about passion is that it is used to make us feel like our amazing, ordinary life is not amazing enough.  It can really easily be twisted into another marketing tactic that makes you feel less than and boring because you aren’t swinging from the chandeliers singing Broadway hits all day in between your laundry runs and dishwasher loads.

• Here’s the secret … passion isn’t a thing, mama.  But knowing what it actually IS turns this whole conversation on its head and helps you live your life wide awake.

3. Path of Service

• The world needs you, but you already knew that, right?  Well, I’m here to tell you the world needs you in a very specific way - your unique fingerprint of gifts and offerings.  But wait!  Don’t get sucked into the same old pattern of assuming you know how you should be serving the world.  Take a plunge with me and find that sweet spot that you may never have uncovered that distinguishes your inner fire path of service which sets the world and your self aflame.

4. Priorities

• Priorities get a bad rap.  They can feel obligatory and dull.  In most of our lives, we feel we already have responsibilities and priorities that tap into our reserves all day long.  But in this workshop, we are going to explore a different way of using priorities in our life and how when we make this one change, priorities pave a way to inner peace and confidence in our own skin like nothing else.

5. Prosperity

• Bishop TD Jakes has said, “Your job is to grab hold and pursue your purpose.  Keep chasing your purpose and let prosperity chase you.“  We are going to learn the right order of things that allows prosperity to seek us when we shift our gaze in the right direction.

Teach Your Life to be Extraordinary takes you through these 5 concepts and how they directly apply to the life you are living right now.

Disclaimer:  There is no way to learn this stuff other than experimentally.

Here’s the truth of it:  the common denominator in all your most valued relationships is YOU. 

Want to be a better mom?  Be a better you.

Want to be a better wife – have a better marriage?  Be a better you.

It’s easy to assume, “Why try because I can’t change my kids, I can’t change my husband … I can’t change my financial situation, or the hectic schedule of my days or the job I’m in, or the job I left when I became a mother or or or or…”

I know how easy it is to get totally wound into these kinds of defeatist thoughts.  But you are forgetting about how deeply interconnected everything is – how everyone is.

Change you and you change the space around the relationships in your life, which triggers change in others and from the world from the inside out pattern – not a forced change, but a natural responsive change. Focus on what you have most power to shift – yourself – then watch the ripples flow out from that center point.

I’ve put together a brilliantly simple, but powerful roadmap to an extraordinary life.  It takes you through the process of really understanding a completely new way of thinking about 5 core elements to the big picture of your life.

See … we’ve been sold on the idea that passion is a thing, that purpose is a project and that priorities hem you in.  Most of us don’t even have a clear idea any more of what we are looking for when we say we wish we had more passion and purpose in our lives.  The way we make decisions all day long is by reacting to whatever life throws at us.

Clarity is Queen

When we get clear on what these essential parts of our life really are and then go through specific ways to explore how they uniquely apply to our situation, our life, our relationships and ourselves, a whole new world opens up right in front of us – right inside our day to day life that we are living right now. 

Through this course series you will receive:

~ Alignment

So you can finally work on all the parts of who you are and all the areas of your life seamlessly together without the anxiety and friction that comes when your life is working against itself.

~ Peace

An inner peace that calms and soothes your mind from all the noise, chaos and scattered thinking that most of us live with everyday.

~ Synergy

When we engage the power of harmony from the inside-out and fit the pieces of our life into a whole integrated picture, change can happen exponentially.

~ Clarity

Clarity in where you are going, in how to make decisions around what stays and what needs to be left behind.  Clarity around where things need to change and where things need focus and attention.

~ Direction

Know where your steps are heading – what summits to scale and what mountains to traverse.  An inner sense of moving forward and growing into the person you are meant to be.

~ Spark from within

There is no need for your life to be a blazing bonfire all the time, but without the inner pilot light still glowing, we can fall into a dry, dark, despondent place.  Take care to keep the light flickering and it will serve you when you need to light the fire or warm the heart.

And from that place everyone in your life benefits.

• You become a more peaceful, present and patient mother.
• You become  a more loving, intimate and available partner.
• You start to go through your day with an expectation of good things happening … because they do happen.
• You have a deeper trust in the timing of everything.
• You can easily and confidently make better choices on what to say “yes” to and when to say “no.”
• You create healthy boundaries that aren’t rigid, static or difficult, but are true, loving and life giving.

It’s a turn around point for living an extraordinary life.

Teach Your Life to Be Extraordinary has totally exceeded my expectations!  Because of this course, I gained clarity on my purposes.  I also had the opportunity to learn from and grow with a group of wonderful women.  I love the interactions in the private Facebook group with Lisa and the rest of the participants.  It’s probably one of the best ways to get instant feedback and work out our questions and issues.  The course couldn’t have come at a better time – I was feeling overwhelmed and was craving some orderliness and clarity.  The insights and lessons Lisa shared made a huge impact in my life and it inspired so many a-ha moments.  It turned out to be a great blessing  to journey with a group of women who are facing similar situations.  The atmosphere of openness, honesty and compassion in sharing with one another and the support I get from these wonderful women is what made this journey of self-discovery and growth so amazing.  Thank you, Lisa, for this uplifting, life-transforming program.  It’s definitely one of the best courses I’ve attended in a long, long time.  ~ Ruth

About Lisa

Hi. I’m Lisa Byrne. I’m a teacher, speaker, mentor … and most importantly, a wife and mom.

Before becoming a certified holistic health coach, I earned a degree in Biochemistry with a minor in Nutrition and Metabolism and a Master’s degree in Public Health. I’ve always been fascinated with the wonders and workings of our bodies and find that a holistic approach to health puts together the modern science and traditional wisdom of ancient cultures in a way that makes the most difference in people’s health.

But most of all, I’m probably a lot like you. A busy mom who is doing her best to raise and love her children, care for her husband, manage a household, balance work and keep it all together.

As a health coach, I learned how to keep our minds, emotions and bodies healthy. But the experience of mothering challenged me to translate those things into practical, concrete strategies that work in this lifestyle.  I had to test those strategies to find what worked for me so I could build a robust plan for keeping myself healthy.

Once that shift started happening in my life — everything changed. The way I looked forward to my day, the patience I have with my kids, my ability to keep on top of a hectic schedule, my body felt energized and lighter, the ways I was using food, how I was feeding my family. It all started to just become smoother – more enjoyable!

After having my second (and then third) child, I took some time off of individual counseling, but I knew I needed to reach out and create a way to bring this process to other moms.  I began to offer online group courses and the experience has been way more than I could ever have expected. The way women come together, support each other, grow, change, make major breakthroughs … it’s an awesome experience.

How the class series is delivered

Our next LIVE group run will begin February 4 and run through March 1, 2013.  You can work through each module at your own pace and stay connected to Lisa and others through a private Facebook group.

• Each week you’ll receive a link to the 45-60 minute teleclass which is recorded and available as an MP3 for you to download and listen at your convenience.

• Each week you’ll receive workbooks with reflective, action exercises which correspond to that week’s material (delivered via email).

• Access to a private Facebook community group where you can discuss what you are learning, get answers to your questions, and engage in a loving, supportive and encouraging community of women and mothers. (No one on Facebook can see what you post within this group.)

My Risk Free Guarantee

I completely believe in the value I am offering through this course.  I also deeply want you to experience the transformation that is available to you through learning and applying these principles, tools and strategies so I am taking all the risk in your decision to enroll.

If you are not absolutely happy with this course and feel I did not deliver exceptional quality, you can request a full 100% refund within the first 15 days after the course begins.

The risk is all mine, leaving you with so much to gain.

Final message from Lisa

I know it can feel scary to enroll in a life-wellness class online with other women and mothers you don’t know, exploring issues around some of the most tender parts of our lives.  I get it and it is my promise to you that when you enroll in this class, you will be entering a grace-filled, non-judgmental loving environment.  It is my highest goal to make you feel deeply heard, understood, comfortable, challenged and changed.  Everything I offer is for you to take if it resonates and leave if it doesn’t.  I don’t believe in dogma, but I do believe in the power of a life that desires things to be different no matter how small or big the changes.

I hope you’ll take a minute right now and consider if this is a yes or a no.

So many times we put things off.  We say we’ll think about it and spend days or weeks tugging back and forth.  I’m asking you to give yourself the gift of decisive choice.  Check in with your body and heart.  If you read this course description page and felt a movement forward, a leaning in, a yes this is a good thing … then give yourself the investment.

As you’ve read above, the risk is mine.  If I don’t deliver an exceptional class series you can get a full refund.  My wish for you right now is not to have another thing weighing on your mind, but that you have the confidence in your own knowing whether this is right or not.  If this is the right time for you, then I can’t wait to meet you in class!